Skip Ribbon Commands
Skip to main content

18-Month-Old Screams at Night

Question:

My son is 18 months old, and I am concerned that he is still not sleeping through the night. He goes to bed between 8 and 10 p.m., but he will wake up at around 2 a.m. and scream at the top of his lungs until he is picked up. He’ll then either pass out or he’ll scream off and on for hours. I have no idea what to do. Nothing seems to work –not rocking him, feeding him or allowing him to watch TV. It is wearing on me, and I am exhausted. What do I do?

Answer:

 

First make an appointment with his pediatrician to rule out a medical reason for his crying. If there are no medical problems, the pediatrician may treat it as though your child has formed a bad habit that needs to be broken in an acceptable way. 

Breaking bad habits is not easy, and it will take a commitment. If the doctor says he needs to cry it out, there will be some rough nights ahead of you and your husband. Keep the goal in mind and stick to it. You and your husband will lie awake listening to the screaming, but do not break your agreement.  "

If the doctor recommends a window of time for him to cry, respect that. He may even suggest that if you do respond, you do not pick him up or put him into your bed. Instead, speak in a soothing voice, lay him back down, give him his security blanket or stuffed animal, rub his back and sing him a lullaby. This is a phase ​that will pass if you make a commitment to change it.