When your child is involved in youth sports, you want to be their biggest cheerleader. That includes supporting the coaches and the rest of their team.

The experts at Boys Town say that a young athlete needs to feel that kind of overall support from their parents at an early age. They also stress the importance of being present at games.

• Put away cell phones and tablets.
• Cheer for the team along with other parents.
• Congratulate your child and the team for their efforts, no matter the outcome.

Be Careful with Criticism

If your child’s performance wasn’t their best, or if the team did poorly, remember that your child will likely feel the same disappointment as you. In fact, they might feel it more than you do, or perhaps in a different way than you.

When talking about the game, pay attention to your child’s mood and what they say. If they seem to be disconnected or even moody, take a step back. You might simply ask them what they need from you.  Boys Town experts recommend letting your kids take the lead on discussing their performance or the game.

Also, you can always talk about the game or their performance later. Sometimes putting a little distance from the event helps. The most important thing to remember is to be positive. Stay away from negativity.

Some phrases and statements to avoid:

• “I think the coach should …”
• “What should have happened during that last play …”
• “I can’t believe that girl/boy gets so much playing time …”

Instead, focus on statements such as:

• “I saw you trying out there …”
• “The team really came together at the end of the 1st half …”
• “Your ball handling skills looked great …”

Save Coach and Referee Talks for Later

One thing experts stress is to avoid talks with the coach immediately before or after the game. Schedule a time to talk later. Don’t approach referees or officials before, during or after the game either. If you see a real problem with a ref or game official, schedule a time to speak with someone at the organization to express your concerns.

Remember the Basics

Of course, always make sure your children have proper equipment in good working order, shoes, helmets, balls, etc. Perhaps most importantly, especially in hot weather, make sure you child is properly hydrated before, during and after the game or practice. Also, make sure they get the proper nutrition, at the right time, before and after the game.

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