Launching Part 3 - Don’t Forget About the Siblings

Article Written by: Tara L. Hart - Staff Psychologist - Boys Town Behavioral Health Clinic

Change can be hard for anyone. It can be especially challenging for families when a family member leaves home for college. That's why it's important for parents to talk to everyone involved. The following can help your younger child get used to the new normal at home.        

• Recognize that other children in the home may also be affected by their brother or sister's transition to college. Some siblings can struggle with the change, while others can remain relatively unaffected. Check in to see how everyone is faring. 
• It is normal for siblings to experiences a range of emotions – sadness, worry, excitement and happiness. Check in with them to see how they may be feeling.
• Encourage siblings to attend family events on campus if your student's school offers them. 
• Try to spend some extra one-on-one time with your child who is still at home. This will help you get used to a new normal that is comfortable and close.

• Try listening rather than talking. This will give you some insight into what he or she is thinking and allow them to bring up any concerns that might surface.
• Preparing and eating meals together are great opportunities for family bonding and acclimating to the new normal. Whether it's choosing the food to prepare, helping to cook it or talking at the dinner table, kids will feel comfort in that sense of belonging and being part of the family and its new dynamic. 
• If possible, try to establish new traditions that are unique to your "new" family. These might include playing cards or board games together on Friday nights, going to a matinee movie on Saturday afternoon, taking a walk after dinner during the week or doing something special during the week.

More on Launching…

Launching Part 1 - Launching Part 1 - Prepare for Change
Launching Part 2 - Develop a New Relationship with Your Child